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Am I being selfish?

There's a delicate line between being selfish and being insensitive. Once you're looking out for yourself, it's easy to come across as being self-centred. Many of us, I'm sure, have struggled with determining when it's good to prioritize oneself and when it becomes selfish. We've all experienced a sense of guilt at some point in our lives. We are not being disrespectful of others when we put ourselves first. The word "selfish" has a bad connotation, and we have forgotten that we must fend for ourselves, as humanity has done for centuries. There's no way you can even try to make people happy if you're not focused on yourself.

When it comes to family boundaries and permission, we must recognize that there are a few things that a person may have an issue with, and that no matter how much of a safe space a family has, learning about space must be taught from the beginning. There is a need for some alone time in order to avoid burnouts and the sense of being locked in a cycle.

During an aviation disaster, if you are unselfish and continue to help others without considering your own health, you will suffocate to death (there's a reason you should listen to the instructions and study the manual).

We've been taught that sharing equals caring, and that anyone who believes differently is a miserable person. Self-love is sometimes misunderstood as excessively narcissistic, but the fact is that it simply teaches you how to be content with what and who you are. To achieve this level of understanding and satisfaction, you must prioritize your thoughts and wants. Nobody wants to go homeless and hungry. We're taught that people should put their wants aside, but we forget that it's always been us who have placed ourselves first in order to survive. It is a natural rule, and defying it will only make you dissatisfied and unhappy in the long run since you are not being true to yourself.

By MEGHA AHUJA / FEB 21, 2022

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